That 5 Talent Life

A couple weeks ago, I heard the story of the talents, from the Bible. A story I’ve heard countless times in the past. But for some reason, this time…it hit me differently than it had before. Perhaps you’ve heard this story…

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A master gives each of his 3 servants a number of talents. The first man is given 5 talents. The second man is given 2 talents and the third man is given 1 talent. They each take them and later on the master comes back to get an accounting from the 3 men…he comes to settle debts. The first man returns with the 5 original talents given and has doubled his talents. He took what was given and used it to the fullest. Full stop! This is where it hit me.

Every other time I’ve heard this parable, I’ve focused on the 1 talent man who brought back only the 1 talent he was originally given. He’d buried it out of fear and therefore had nothing to show for the master’s investment, but the initial 1 talent. The parable is about faith over fear. The parable is about living out the best life you can with the talents you’ve been given! But for some reason it’s this five talent man that got me trippin’. The speaker asked if we’d ever known a 5 talent person. He asked if we felt we were a 5 talent person. And I had to answer…no. I’m not a 5 talent person. This doesn’t mean that I don’t have many talents, maybe even 5 talents to speak of. It means that I often choose to watch 3 episodes of Seinfeld over pursuing my dreams. It means that I may put something in my calendar that I really want to do, but when the day comes to do it, sometimes I chicken out.

For a very sad example: One time I went to a party in New York. There were going to be “people” there. Important “people”…”people” that I could meet and network with. That party had the potential to be a banner moment. I got dressed up…took a cab to the location…paid the cab driver…walked to the door of the restaurant…looked inside at the all the “people” and turned around and went home. Hating myself every minute I didn’t turn back around and use those talents to the fullest. This is one example, but there are countless times when I’ve buried my talents.

I want to be a 5 talent person. The speaker who was telling this whole story talked about meeting Billy Graham, a 5 talent man. No matter what you think of Billy Graham…the man used what was given to him. He spent his life using his talents. And when the speaker met Billy Graham, he knew he was in the presence of a 5 talent man. That doesn’t mean that there weren’t days when Billy Graham walked to the window of the party, looked inside and turned around. Every single one of us have days like that, no matter how many talents we have or how successful we are at using them to the fullest.

But the days you let fear win cannot outweigh the days you kick fear’s ass to the curb.

I want to be a 5 talent person. I want someone to meet me one day and say…”Damn, she’s 5 talent!”

So…how do I do that? How can I become a 5 talent person?

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Men! Listen up.

So Monday I shared a few steps that women can take to put themselves in the path of a hottie at church.

The truth of the matter is that, for the majority of us, that’s all we’ll ever do. Put ourselves in your path. 21st century be darned. Men need to step up. And Christian men especially!

So here you go:

Step #1: Attendance.
If there is a potluck, movie night, single’s picnic or what have you, chances are very good that the ladies will be there. The sad fact (for us women) is that at most churches, the women out number the men. In a major way. At my church it’s something like 5/1. And break that down into single’s terms and that ratio broadens. So start attending, for Pete’s sake! We are.

Step #2: Be Engaged.
Ok… not like the ‘will you be my wife’ engaged. What I mean is that women like men who are involved and interested. Taking notes, volunteering, serving, etc. Again, this is what all of us are doing. So give it a try. Because coming to the service, falling asleep and then dashing out before ‘amen’ is oh-so-not attractive!

Step #3: Enlist help.
Chances are, in your church, there are one or two married women who fancy themselves matchmakers. Meet these women and let them know you’re looking. Trust me. If you tell them you’re looking… you won’t be single for long. Plus those women know us and are already on the lookout. Make it easy on everyone involved!!