Settling Down or Just Plain Settling

If I asked you to describe the perfect man, what would you say, ladies?  Or men, what about the perfect woman?

My checklist looks a little like this… Click Here.

And the funny thing is we tell ourselves we have “high standards” and that settling is bad. Our loved ones tell us never to “settle for less than we deserve” meanwhile they are begging us to go ahead and settle down already.
And is it just me or does settle down sound an awful lot like “settling.” Perhaps that’s because it’s the same freaking word!
Who was the wise guy that started calling it “settling down?”

Anyone out there married? Did it feel like you were settling down in life? Does having children make you feel settled? Or is it one adventure to the next.

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I think you know already that I’m not married or with child. But I know enough to know that that’s the worst description of marriage and married life I’ve ever heard. And if that’s what it’s like… I’ll tell you right now, marriage ain’t for me. Hello!! I’m a hurricane. It is physically impossible for me to “settle down” or to “settle” in any way. My winds may get smoother, but they’ll always be there, blowing away. I have a sneaking suspicion it’s nothing like that! (Marrieds…back me up here.)

If the goal in finding love is to settle down and yet somehow not end up settling for “less than you deserve” then I think it’s a losing battle. And making a checklist for Mr. “Perfect” seems like a futile attempt to control the uncontrollable. Isn’t it better when Mr. or Mrs. Surprising comes along? Maybe he isn’t taller than you. Maybe she isn’t a D cup. Maybe he didn’t go to Harvard Law School. Maybe SHE didn’t go to Harvard Law School. See what I’m getting at here.

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So, yeah. I went ahead and threw my checklist away. Cause if I’m honest with myself, I’m looking for a Mr. Darcy and all I’m finding is Mr. Ed. (That’s right… the talking horse!)

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Checklists… we all make them. But at the end of the day we should all be equally prepared to rip them up and throw them away. Standards are OK. Compatibility is a thing. But don’t let either get in the way of what can come along when you aren’t holding that person under a microscope of unrealistic expectations!

Episode 9: Checklist

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Starring: Liz Tailor

Clothes: Liz – Pride and Prejudice Tee from Out of Print, Make a Better World Necklace with mango hoop from The Leakey Collection, Orange Tree Earrings from The Root Collective, Cobalt Peep Toe Flats from The Root Collective

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New Episode Next Tuesday, October 28th

5 Fandom Friday

Super Space Chick and The Nerdy Girlie have issued a blog challenge. Post a top 5 within the preset topic chosen each Friday. This week’s topic is “Characters I Would Love To Dress Up As For Halloween.” Instead of doing the 5 costumes I want to dress up as this year, I’m going to do 5 costumes I have attempted in the past.

I looooove Halloween! It’s such a fun holiday. When we were kids, my brother, my cousin and I would get all dressed up, sometimes with a costume theme in mind, and go out trick or treating all night. And we lived in the kind of neighborhood that gave out homemade cookies and whole candy bars. It was pretty much the best thing ever! Once we got our haul we would come back to our house, dump our loot on the floor and proceed to play the trade game. You know… 3 Snickers for a bag of Skittles. 5 Tootsie Rolls for a Twix. That kind of thing. Being the oldest, sometimes I could trick the younger ones into thinking the candy I didn’t want was exactly what they needed. Like a Peanut Chew.

Parents… don’t put Peanut Chews in your Halloween bowls this Halloween. They are the pennies of the candy world. No one wants them. Skittles, Twix, 3 Musketeers, Twizzlers. These are what the kids want! Don’t try to be cheap on Halloween and give out Peanut Chews. And don’t even get me started on Nougat! You may as well move if you’re giving out Nougat.

Ok… back to the Top 5!

1. WONDER WOMAN

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Wonder Woman is a favorite of pretty much every girl born before 2000 and a personal favorite of mine. And with all the upcoming projects in DC I’m sure she’ll be appealing to a brand new generation. I was about 8 years old when I dressed up as Wonder Woman and my brother was Superman. We wore these pajamas all the time so it was a cost effect and Super easy costume for Halloween (see what I did there!) If I did this costume now, it would be a much more elaborate recreation, but as an 8 year old… if you can choose between a tight, body constricting costume and your pajamas… you go with the pajamas. Heck, as an adult if you can choose between a tight, body constricting costume and your pajamas…you just can’t go wrong with pajamas on Halloween (as long as it isn’t “pajama” lingerie. That’s a no go!)

2. PRINCESS LEIA

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This is another one with mass appeal. Princess Leia, circa A New Hope is the easiest of the Leia costumes to replicate. White dress, hair in buns, a good blaster at your side and your done! As I mentioned my brother, my cousin and I greatly enjoyed dressing up in a group. One year we were Tinkerbell, Captain Hook and Tiger Lily. This particular year we were Princess Leia, Han Solo and Wicket W. Warrick (if that name doesn’t sound familiar to you then I question your Star Wars knowledge!!) And it is still one of my very favorite family Halloween’s. I haven’t dressed up as Leia as an adult yet, maybe because that year was so good I don’t want to taint it, but I did do Leia buns for my 30 Days of Nerdy Hair blog series and my buns have gotten way better if I do say so myself!!

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3. “SEXY” CATWOMAN

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I could have sworn that all photographic evidence of this disaster had been destroyed, but alas… there is proof that I gave this “sexy” thing a try and failed hard. (Sorta glad I didn’t achieve “sexy” status. It’s not really my thing!) I cannot stand “sexy” Halloween costumes. They lack creativity as well as material over vital body parts. They’re obvious and cheaply made and fly in the face of hard working cosplayers the world over. That being said…back in college I was highly susceptible to peer influences and pressures. And I attempted to create a “sexy” costume one year. (Hey… all the cool kids were doing it.)For more on this geek tragedy check back on Oct. 28th for a special Halloween episode of my web series, So… This Happened in which I talk about that poorly attempted “sexy” costume. In the meantime, check out the rest of the series in anticipation. Click HERE.

4. CALIFORNIA MOUNTAIN SNAKE

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This costume is another easy one to do. And while you may not get the mass recognition of Black Mamba’s tell tale yellow suit, when you do get recognized it will be by true fans of the Kill Bill movies. And it ends up being so much more satisfying. Make sure not to carry a real Katana around, that can get you into serious trouble. And if you don’t have the fighting skills of the Deadly Viper Assassination Squad, do you really need a real Katana anyways?

5. Buffy Summers

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This is my favorite Halloween costume I’ve done as an adult. This is a great one to do with friends especially if you have a token redhead in your life. Also fairly easy (I’m all about easy!) Plus taking this costume on the road and trying it on location (ie. a dark and stormy night in Astoria Park) is a fun way to immerse yourself in your chosen Halloween persona. And who better to portray than the butt kicking, vamp dusting, blond haired bad ass herself, the Buffster! (Willow sold separately.)

As you can see the older I get the better my costumes get. By the time I’m 40 (Yikes that’s less than 9 years away) my costumes will be so good I’ll look like I stepped right off the Paramount Lot!

Happy early Halloween. I can’t wait to see everyone’s costumes. Make sure to send pictures and check back for more Halloween goodness later on!

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Love,

Liz Tailor

Nerd in the City Book Club

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Over-Dressed: The Shockingly High Cost of Cheap Fashion

by Elizabeth L. Cline

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October is fair fashion month and I had the opportunity to attend a panel moderated by author Elizabeth Cline at the TrimLab a couple week’s ago. Which then prompted me to pick up her book.

About 6 months ago I was sent down the road to fair fashion, what it’s all about and what it means for my life. If I wasn’t already ignited to change my shopping habits, this book would have done the trick! I had cut out Forever 21 because their production practices are very questionable, but I was still holding onto H&M. The lesser of two evils, right? Well after reading this book, I can’t really continue to shop there. And have made the commitment not to shop at any fast fashion chains. I also have committed to having no fast fashion in my web series, So…This Happened, as of Jan. 20th. (We filmed a few episodes before this conviction.)

What I loved about Over-Dressed is that it delves deep into the problems our country currently faces with production, overspending, high volume of waste and the general mindset that fashion is disposable. The amount of clothing that people purchase and throw away is at an all time high. And big, fast-fashion companies like H&M, Forever 21 and Zara are rendering small boutique designers virtually extinct. When you are able to get a “fashionable” top for $5 at Forever 21, why would you pay $150 for something from an independent zer0 waste designer like Tabii Just or Daniel Silverstein? Quality has turned from “well made” to “good enough.”

Cline talks a lot about her own experience with fast fashion and while reading her story, it felt like it could have been my story. When Cline walked out of an “Kmart with 7 pairs of canvas flats,” that was the moment she started her wake up call. The journey she goes on will enlighten you to what is happening in our world right now and really make you think about how you shop!

Definitely give this book a read and allow it to challenge the way you think about fashion and shopping. Do you know what your wearing? Who made it? It’s quality? These are the kind of questions Elizabeth dared to ask herself and will ask you if you let her.

Get it here.

Once Upon a Comic Con

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Stepping off the subway at 34th and Broadway, you can sense in the air that this is not your typical Thursday in New York City. Something special is going on.

Those in the know are aware of what that something is. But the lay people of NY may be confused by the sight of Gandalf the grey on their train. And really confused by Two-Face Gandalf the Grey and White. But hey… it’s New York. So maybe they chalk it up to the quirks and oddities that come with everyday city life.

But then comes Princess Peach and Darth Vader. A Jedi My Little Pony walks by followed closely by an Optimus-Bumblebee hybrid. (Hybrids were very big this year. Click HERE for a laugh about it from College Humor.) Maybe characters they don’t even have a name for. These are the unique, non-mainstream costumes that only those of the “nerd” persuasion can identify and truly appreciate.

Yes… this is New York Comic Con.

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A place where Harley Quinn and Iron Man can be seen walking hand in hand. A magical land where Bronies and Deadpools and Stormtroopers all belong. And where you can find a unique interpretation of Elsa around every corner. Basically it’s nerd heaven!

The second you walk through those big glass doors, after making it through the never ending line that finally ends and you have your bags and weapons checked at the door, you do one of two things… 1. Quickly race to the first panel of the day or 2. Head straight up to the showroom floor. Either way you head there will be another line waiting for you. But it’s a line filled with Poison Ivy’s, Slave Leia’s, 10th Doctors and Disney Princesses… so is this line the end of the world? Nope! Just another day at the office.

If you have any Comic Con Spidey sense, you brought your snacks, wore the proper footwear and have leisurely mapped your day out, incorporating ample people watching time. Because that in and of itself is a beautiful and fascinating thing.

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Witnessing people in their natural element is an amazing treat and these people, my people, are most at home here at the Con. Among thousands of other like minds who understand their fandoms and passions. I can fall as easily into conversation with the Cumberbitches as I can with the Whovians. And the Trekkies and the Hookers (a newer one for sure.) And even with the DC universe vs the Marvel universe… here at the Con we are all nerds in this together. No warring factions here.

And for the first year ever, we have eclipsed the staggering mythological numbers that SDCC pulls in every year. And why not? After all, we are no red-headed step child. We are NYCC. A tour de force, a tidal wave of nerd culture. And in New York City we never do anything small!!

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Love in Alderaan Fashion

Episode 8: Love in Alderaan Places

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Get Liz’s Look:

Vintage Poster Racerback Tank: Her Universe - $28

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If you are interested in a costume as authentic as his Indiana Jones… contact him for more information.

Twitter: @MulliganMichael

Episode 8: Love in Alderaan Places

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Starring: Liz Tailor and Michael Mulligan (@MulliganMichael

Clothes: Liz – Vintage Poster Racerback Tank from Her Universe, Star Wars Han and Leia Earrings from Little Shoppe of Hodge Podge Etsy Shop

Michael: For more information on Michael’s cosplay contact him on Twitter @MulliganMichael

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New Episode Next Tuesday, October 21st

Nerd in the City Book Club

A New Dawn

by John Jackson Miller

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Once Disney and co. decanonized all of the existing Star Wars novels, relegating them to “Star Wars Legends” they made quick work of ordering all the new novels that would take their place in the new canon alongside the movies and Star Wars: Clone Wars and the brand new Star Wars: Rebels.

A New Dawn picks up about a year before the new Disney XD cartoon, that’s already been picked up for a second season. IT follows future crew mates, Kanan Jarrus an ex-Jedi just trying to survive in the aftermath of the Jedi purge and Hera Syndulla, an impressive Twi’lek pilot with secrets of her own.

Star Wars is always at it’s best when unlikely allies come together to take down a big bad that is doing unspeakable evil. This novel sits comfortably in a world we know and love, employing references to Obi-Wan, Darth Vader, Emperor Palpatine and even Grand Moff Tarkin. Yet it has it’s own story to tell and creates a lovely lead in to the TV show that is just on the horizon (episode 1 has already aired and will be re-aired on ABC at the end of Oct. with a special scene featuring Vader himself, voiced…of course, by James Earl Jones. Don’t miss it!)

It’s great to see a strong female character, which Star Wars has never had a problem portraying. They’ve only ever had too few of them to portray. A problem I hope to see disappear in the new film as well as in Rebels.

A lovely gentleman at the Del Rey booth gave me a copy of this book, officially making him my favorite person at New York Comic Con this year!!

Get it here.

Happy Friday to Ya!

Hope you are enjoying a lovely Friday wherever you are today. I’m in New York about to head over to New York Comic Con. It’s an excellent day for a geek fest and an even better day to laugh. Check out our bloopers from So…This Happened. They’re pretty hilarious!!

And let me know how you’ll be spending this lovely Friday. Also, don’t forget to head over to Instagram and Twitter and enter my Thursday Giveaway!