Dating and Star Wars

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It was a blind date…plain and simple. I walked into it with the lowest of expectations, because experience had taught me to be cautious and common sense had taught me to be sensible. I wasn’t bitter or jaded about the endeavor…not yet, at least. Just realistic, something I try very hard not to be on a regular basis.

I walked in head held higher than my hopes. Because I am a people person. Talking…I’m good at that. And after all, a blind date need only go on as long as you want it to. What’s the worst that could possibly have happened?

We sat down, ordered drinks and immediately dove for the basket of bread at the same time. Bread is a comfort food and clearly we were both feeling the kind of discomfort that can only come when a friend of a friend sets you up with a friend of a friend’s friend. Or however the hell fate had brought us together that night.

The first question he thought of was “what’s your favorite movie?” A seemingly innocuous question for anyone…anyone but me, that is.

Because I don’t just have a favorite movie…I have a favorite movement. I have a favorite fandom! I have something that dominates a lot of my brain space and most of my wardrobe!! I have…STAR WARS!!!

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Now, when it comes to dating, there are a lot of things…”skeletons”…that belong in a person’s closet until someone know’s you better than what is possible on a first date. My love of Star Wars turned out to be a skeleton that I should have left buried in my closet. But this was before I knew that I wasn’t supposed to tell boys on dates that I liked loved LIVED Star Wars.

Moments after the question came tumbling out of his mouth, I quickly responded with a short and sweet, “Star Wars!”

Intrigued, he opened Pandora’s box and asked, “Oh yeah, which one?”

I smiled to myself and said, “All of them.”

“No!” he said. “Which of the movies is your favorite one?”

“Well,” I said. “The Empire Strikes back is arguably the best of all of them. Though, we have to ask ourselves…where would we be without A New Hope? And yet, if I’m being honest…it’s Return of the Jedi that tugs hardest at my heart strings. Something about the Throne Room scene has always captivated me the most. As Luke wrestles with his darker nature, the Emperor slowly starts to lose his grip on his most prized apprentice. Which brings me to the prequels…I personally love all of them too. The overarching story of Anakin Skywalker’s descent into darkness and inevitable betrayal of the Jedi forces me to ask so many questions about the movie franchise I grew up with and love dearly. That’s so interesting to me. Sure…sure…they’re flawed movies. But that doesn’t diminish their value to the franchise overall, in my opinion. Does…does that answer your question?”

With a vaguely terrified look on his face, he responded, “I liked the first one.” As he rolled his eyes and ducked his head, I knew…this date was over.

Now, some may think my answer was a bit showy, possibly a display of nerd elitism…but I assure you, it was an answer that came from the purest place in my heart. A place that just wanted to find commonality in the midst of adversity. And yet, this man was immediately disinterested in me based on my lengthy answer to his simple question.

I’ve learned over the years that this question is best answered with much more care than I gave it on that date. Perhaps I should have said less and smiled more. But that’s just not who I am. And isn’t the point of a first date to get to know the other person and show them who you are? Wasn’t that what I was doing? Like a bull in a China shop, I had wrecked the whole damn thing.

I set my bread down on my napkin, thanked him for his time and I left. The look on his face told me all I needed to know. In his eyes…I was a freak. A Star Wars freak! Little did he know…that was perfectly fine with me!

I didn’t leave the date because Star Wars is a deal breaker…though now, it totally is! I didn’t leave because he seemed mildly intimidated and borderline afraid of me. I left because I may not have known him, but I know me! If he was turned off by my passion for Star Wars and couldn’t even understand it in the least, meaning he didn’t feel as passionately about anything as much as I do about that galaxy far, far away….then, what was the point of wasting an hour of small talk on him. Or of him wasting his time on me?

Some people just aren’t meant to be together. And we were a case in point.

I choose my words more carefully when on blind dates these days. I keep my skeleton in the closet longer than I used to, but not too long. I won’t hide who I am. And if they don’t like it, I ain’t interested. And, come on! There are way worse skeletons you could have in your closet than some handmade Padmé cosplay, a Darth Maul lightsaber, a wardrobe full of Star Wars t-shirts, a book case full of Star Wars novels (both Legends and new Disney canon) and the ability to recite from memory most, if not all, of the original trilogy.

Hell, a first date spent debating the evils and virtues of Jar Jar Binks would be a success in my book. Is that too high a bar to set? I think not!

NITC Book Club: Star Wars Edition

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This week I’m finishing up the Thrawn Trilogy with Timothy Zahn’s The Last Command.

As you know, I’m not one to spoil so I’m not gonna give anything away for those who haven’t read this yet. So here’s what I will tell ya!

Timothy Zahn is a master of story telling and he keeps, so faithfully, to the spirit of the original trilogy that thinking about how this story is now just a “Legend” and not true canon, makes me a little sad. Mara Jade is a seminal character to any fan of the Expanded Universe. And if there’s one character that should make the transfer to the new stuff, it should 100% be her… you hear that Disney!!! Give us Mara Jade.

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Still have a lot of reading left to do before the Journey to The Force Awakens officially begins in Sept.

5 Fandom Friday

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My Comfort Films

As usual, to pick only 5 is a very hard thing indeed. I have so many movies I love and find comfort in. But here are the 5 that I turn to the most.

#1 – Star Wars

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Star Wars is my favorite of all! So naturally it’s what I turn to most. I put it on in the background when I have work to do. I sit down and avidly watch it and quote along on rainy Saturdays. I can always turn to Star Wars no matter what. And I know what you’re thinking. ‘Why are the prequels on here.’ Because I like them, that’s why! They may not be my favorites. They may not even be good. Who cares! When I say Star Wars I mean all of Star Wars. And every time I watch any of the Star Wars movies there is a comfort in the watching. There’s a feeling like I’m back home and safe and watching something I know word for word… all 6. Sure the original trilogy has something the prequels could never hope to reach, but that doesn’t lessen the fact that I like the prequels for what they are.

#2 – The Philadelphia Story

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This has long been a favorite of mine. It has two of my very favorite actors of all time. Cary Grant and Katharine Hepburn. And Jimmy Stewart is nothing to sneeze at either! It’s got some great lines like, “I’m such an unholy  mess of a girl.” or “I promise to be yar!” I was practically raised on black and white movies and there’s something romantic and enchanting about them. And this above all others is the one I go to when I’m in a mushy, romantic sort of mood. (Which happens more often then you might think!)

#3 – The Court Jester

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This is an old family favorite. My brother and I must have watched this about 100 times when we were kids. So much that I have every song memorized. Humor is definitely my kryptonite. I love to laugh and this movie makes me laugh every time I watch, even though I know the jokes are coming. That’s the mark of a truly good comedy. The humor never gets old. Danny Kaye is a master at his craft and this is an example of some of his very best work!!

#4 – Muppet Treasure Island

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Another family favorite. (There’s something to that!) You can never go wrong with The Muppets. They sing. They dance. It’s family friendly and it has Tim Curry, who is always amazing. This is another film that I have pretty much memorized from watching over and over again.

#5 – The Mirror Has Two Faces

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This is one of my all time favorite romantic comedies. Barbra Streisand… Jeff Bridges. Need I say more. That’s enough to hook ya right there. It’s delightful. It’s romantic. It’s one of me and my mom’s favorite movies. And if you’ve never seen it, do yourself a favor and go rent it!! It’s a treasure.

What movies do you turn to for comfort? I wanna know!!

I Like It and I Don’t Care What You Think!

Here’s the thing… I like Star Wars Episode I: The Phantom Menace. Spike TV was having a marathon last weekend… as usual. And possibly in lieu of the 30th anniversary of Return of the Jedi.

And sure… it’s a weak installment in the canon and I could write a list of things that didn’t work for me and nothing beats the original trilogy… duh! But I’m a glass-half-full kinda girl and I like to focus on things I like in a movie.

So haters… move along.

1. John Williams returned to score The Phantom Menace and beautifully scored it was. Duel of the Fates is one of my favorite pieces of music not only in the Star Wars universe but in movie music history. It’s powerful and poignant! And I can’t wait to hear what Williams has in store for Ep. VII.

2. Darth Maul holds up as a super baddie!! Ok, so he’ll never be Darth Vader. No one will ever be Darth Vader. But Maul has a great fighting style. He’s fast, looks scary as all get out and weilds a two-sided lightsaber. Pretty dang bad-ass!!

3. Foreshadowing. I love, love, love foreshadowing.

4. Awesomely wild costumes!!

And finally 5. Qui-Gon Jinn. What a great addition to the Jedi counsel. Liam Neeson’s Jinn is part rebel, part devoted member of the counsel. The force flows through him, but he walks his own path. His death was surprising and tragic for the Jedi and for the audience.

There you have it. Agree or don’t. But I am predisposed to love anything and everything Star Wars. The extended universe, the prequels, Star Wars Clone Wars… even the Star Wars Christmas Special. I love it all and it’s all near and dear to my heart. The future films will be no exception!! Can not wait.

30 Days of Nerdy Hair

Day 18 – Princes Leia

Today’s inspiration comes from the original icon of geekery. The girl all little girls born after 1977 wanted to be. Princess Leia Organa (from any of the original Star Wars trilogy.) And I know you expected the buns, but I always liked her hair from Return of the Jedi, while she was on the forest moon of Endor.


Start with a bit of light tan colored twine.

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Braid it into you hair at the top of your head. Start from the right side and pull the braid over to the left side and pin it. So it gives a sort of headband look.

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Then, if your hair is long enough, extend the braid down the left side of your head and let it fall with your natural hair. If your hair isn’t long enough, create a second braid with the twine and let it fall in with the rest of your hair.

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I also went ahead and slept with it in braids the night before to give it that texture.

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