Online Dating

It was my first foray back into the “wonderful world of online dating.” Actually, it was my re-introduction to dating after a very long time…period. And boy, was I rusty!

I flexed my dating muscles by downloading 2 of the most popular dating apps: Tinder and Bumble. Basically the same thing in different clothes. The Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde of dating apps, if you will.

 

Bumble dating app nerd bloggerDr. Jekyl…the seemingly normal, mild-mannered better half, who promises some semblance of humanity, but is secretly cooking up serums to hide the evil within.

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Mr. Hyde…the maniacal other half, not even bothering to hide in the shadows while it’s “nice guy” exterior is shed to reveal the inner beast!

In truth, neither app is to be trusted. And if you’ve ever had a good experience on one of these apps…more power to you, but you are the exception, not the rule!

But out of all the recommendations I was getting for online dating (and there were plenty) these were the two I decided to try. There was very little commitment to jump in and the minimalistic profiles appealed to me.

One of the things I hate most about online dating sites is the lengthy amount of information you’re given to sift through about a person all before ever meeting them face to face. And let’s be honest, some people may not look great on paper, but have great personalities. And some may look stellar on paper, but are rubbish in person. It’s a crap shoot.

So I had high hopes that at the very least, it was going to be a worthy social experiment.

IT WAS NOT!

I got ghosted by 2 separate men. One of whom I’m still not sure if he stood me up or if I stood him up. The other who asked a question, which I attempted to answer, then dropped the mic and never followed up. Why ask in the first place??

But the pièce de résistance has to be Ben. Ben was a Hyde in Jekyl clothing. Seemingly nice, unassuming, had been hurt by love and was looking to move on.

This is how the whole thing went down with Ben…

-A couple texts back and forth

-Interest was piqued

-Ben suggests we go for a hike in the woods

-I suggest a less secluded location (I’m not about to get human trafficked!)

-Reluctantly Ben agrees

-We make plans to walk around Park Avenue and get some ice cream

-Ben asks what I’ll be wearing….then offers “helpful” suggestions as to what i might consider as an option…

“How about stilettos, teased hair and a leather studded jacket?”

Yep, you read that right. Ben suggested I dress as Sandy from Grease, but not Sandy as she normally dressed throughout the whole of the movie. Sandy at the end of the movie, when feeling as though she isn’t “bad girl” enough for Danny Zuko dresses in stilettos, teased hair and a leather studded jacket to make sure she doesn’t lose her man!

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This, ladies and gentlemen, was the actual suggestion Ben made to me. Because who wouldn’t want to show up on a date looking like that. Wonder if he was planning to show up in a letterman’s jacket or T-birds jacket.

We’ll never know because that was the end of that. I texted back saying I was not interested in going on the date, wished him well and blocked his number. I don’t ghost people, but I also don’t go on dates I no longer want to go on!!

Maybe you think the reaction to his suggestion a bit extreme, but it says a lot about what he thinks about women. And…no thank you!

After a couple other missteps on these apps, I decided enough was enough and deleted both of them. What I thought was going to be a fun experience turned out to be more excruciating than I was willing to put up with.

I was under the misconception that these dating apps would take you out of the text conversation hell hole that other sites put you in. But it just ended up being question after question with no follow through. Not to mention the number of guys who wanted boob shots and extra photos of me. I can only imagine what they would have done with the pictures if I’d had a much lower self esteem and had sent them.

Faith in humanity was at an all time low after this experience. But it did teach me a valuable lesson about online dating, or specifically these apps that promote a culture of hooking up and one night stands…it’s not for me.

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Favorite Fictional Fashion Sense

I’m sure most of you, gentle readers, already know about my love of fashion. I studied fashion design in college and moved to New York expressly to pursue a career in fashion. I did my internship here and had big dreams of creating my own fashion label. As we all know, dreams change!

Here are the characters who’s fashion I love the most. I think the photos speak for themselves!!

#1 – Carrie Bradshaw

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#2 – Daenarys Targaryen

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#3 – Padme Amidala

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#4 – The Pink Ladies

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#5 – The Doctor

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Happy Halloween, nerds!!!

So today is Halloween. And up here in New York it is supposed to rain tonight. And last year was Hurricane Sandy and the year before that there was a freak snow storm. Basically God is putting the kibosh on slutty costumes.

This does not upset me in the least. It is upsetting to me (sorry guys) that each year costumes get sluttier and sluttier. And people are finding ways to make even the least slutty occupation, somehow slutty. Like slutty construction worker and slutty police man and slutty unicorn (not a profession, but you get my drift.)

I really don’t understand it. The one year I went as something that could have been perceived as slutty, I was a Victoria’s Secret Angel and I wore pajamas and wings. Everything was covered. I like creativity and well thought out costumes. Costumes that are funny or nostalgic or nerdy. These are what should win the prizes.

I was in a costume contest a few years back. I went as Catwoman (I wore a long-sleeved turtleneck, black leggings and black boy shorts. By no means slutty!!) You know what won that year? Slutty Brittney Spears. (As if the slutty even needed to be added on back then.) It was just the worst. I didn’t even have a great costume that year, but there were plenty of others that should have won the prize.

Women of the world, I beg you. Quit with the slut routine!!! Find something new to be. Quit showing your boobs and your ass and everything else God gave ya!! Leave a little to the imagination. I beg of you!!!

Anyways. Have a very Happy Halloween tonight and stay dry!!! Don’t forget to share pictures (unless they’re slutty… then don’t!)

Thank you!

I finally finished my July travel. And now that I have a moment to sit and breathe I just wanted to thank you all for reading and watching for my 30 Days of Nerdy Hair!!

I’d love to hear what some favorites were. I think my top 5 favorites were:

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Cindy Loo Who

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Lucille Ball

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Sandy

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Sleeping Beauty

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& D.J. Tanner

Not neccessarily in that order.

Let me know your favorites as well as suggestions for future series. Keep an eye out for tutorials next time. And thanks again for reading!!

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Day 24: Sandy from Grease

Today’s style is from a very dear movie I watched as a kid and then later realized was wildly not what I remembered. But still loved!!
It’s Grease!! Specifically bad-girl, makeover Sandy.

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Tell me about it… stud!

Fun fact: I have never, in my life, used hot rollers. But I figured doing this style may call for them. So I borrowed my roomate, Audrey’s, Conair rollers and went to work.
Then took them out and here you have it.

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Also because of using the hot rollers I got a bonus nerdy girl hairstyle from Grease… Beauty School Dropout!

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The perks!!